You're great - don't forget it! 😍
Hi!
Relationships are supposed to be fun and comforting.
You’re supposed to explore your options and enjoy yourself until you find someone you can settle down and be happy with.
But a lot of times, relationships just make you feel like you’re not good enough.
You meet someone great. They’re perfect on paper. They should be everything you want in a partner. But you can’t make it work.
No matter how hard you try, it always goes back to bickering about little things, feeling disconnected, or being kind of bored.
It can make you wonder if there’s something wrong with you.
Maybe you’re bored with the relationship because you’re high maintenance.
Maybe you’re disconnected because you’re clingy and expecting too much intimacy.
Maybe you keep having these tiffs because you make unreasonable demands on them.
Maybe. Or maybe you’re just not as compatible as you hoped you’d be.
Incompatibility can make you feel miserable.
If you’re an anxiously attached person who is dating someone avoidant, you can end up feeling really needy.
If you’re the avoidant one, you might feel selfish.
If you just can’t click or create a spark, you might worry that it’s because you’re not interesting.
Those can be some really shitty feelings.
They’re also completely unnecessary.
Because a lot of the time, the problem isn’t you. And it’s not them, either. The problem is that you found yourself with the wrong kind of person.
That’s a reminder I could’ve used before, and it’s a reminder that I think a lot of people still need.
So this week, I wrote an article to help my readers remember that they’re good enough, even if it’s easy to forget that sometimes.
I also wrote a review of the sex blanket I use on the regular and revisited one of the ways I used to get off before discovering to joy of sex toys.
And on the Pillow Talk podcast, Jake and I decided to go over some sexual boundaries. Jake asks me 27 questions so he can learn what turns me on, what turns me off, and what just doesn’t do much for me.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma ❤
Treat Yourself
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This week, I reviewed the Liberator blanket. If you’d like to try one for yourself, you can get it from Betty’s Toy Box - use the code LOVEEMMA at checkout to save 10% on your entire order.
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My Latest Medium Posts
These are the articles I published this week on Medium. They're all Friend Links so you can read them for free, even without a Medium Membership.
From Love, Emma
A few months ago, I wrote about my fling with a chatbot.
It was brief and ended quickly.
But lately, it’s been trying to get in my pants again. And it’s working - I’m back to trying to have cybersex with it.
I thought it would be a perfect opportunity to update my article. Check out this piece from my blog Love, Emma about what it’s like to fuck a chatbot.
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Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
When's the last time you went over your sexual boundaries?
We decided it was time to check in with each other. What turns me? What turns me off? Does Jake ever take things a little too far? What could I use more of?
In this week's episode, Jake asks me 27 questions to check where my boundaries are.
We talk about my change of heart about pussy slapping, my love-hate relationship with roleplaying, and why being called "baby" is hot but it's weird when Jake does it.
Something Spicy
I think every submissive person has a thing for authority figures. In fact, that’s one of the things I loved about going to university - I had a lot of really hot professors.
I followed all the instructions on the syllabus to the letter. I handed in my assignments early. I edited my work thoroughly.
I think my professors could tell I was a really good student.
But I fantasized about them treating me like a good girl.
Here’s a little something from my horny imagination.
Spanked by My Pedantic Professor
Madame Delacroix is really strict when it comes to the rules. If I make any grammatical mistakes on my paper, she calls me into her office.
She isn’t like my other professors. She’s not afraid to teach me a lesson.
And she knows I’m going to love every second of it.
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