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Hi!
Most of us have sexual fantasies we haven’t actually tried out.
Sometimes, it’s because there’s just no opportunity to get it done.
You’re single so you just have to fantasize. You’re partnered but you can’t find a suitable third to make your groupsex dreams come true. Or you have a kink that doesn’t turn your partner’s crank.
You might also suspect that your fantasy should stay a fantasy. Maybe it’s really hot to think about being in the middle of a gangbang, but actually doing it might just be exhausting.
If you’re too embarrassed to admit what you want, you might have to sit on your desires until you do.
That basically happened to me with every single thing I was into - I went ages without them because I couldn’t bring myself to ask for anything.
And then there are the ones that you can’t actually experience, no matter how hard you try. I get really turned on by the thought of losing my virginity but, needless to say, that’s not something I can actually recreate.
But sometimes, we don’t pursue the fantasies we have because they’re intimidating.
That’s often the case with anal. Lots of women have dirty thoughts about taking it in the ass but get too nervous to try it out.
They’re worried it will hurt, that it will be uncomfortable, or that they’ll do it wrong.
I was in that same position a few years ago - until I finally managed to go for it and ask my husband to fuck my ass. He did, and it did not disappoint at all.
So, I put together some advice for the women who are in the same place I was in. These are the steps to take if you’re curious about doing anal but feel nervous about actually trying it.
This week, I also wrote about:
The best gifts to give your partner on Sexmas. Last year, my husband and I started a tradition of exchanging gifts and sexy surprises every night on the week leading up to Christmas. It was playful, exciting, and gave us lots of toys to play with for the whole year. I’ve already started my holiday shopping, so I thought it was time to put together my list of 21 sexy gifts you can give your partner.
Different ways to give your partner (or yourself) some aftercare. I take aftercare very seriously. It doesn’t have to last long, it doesn’t have to be elaborate, but you definitely need some. We don’t talk about it enough, and when we do we don’t often give a clear idea of what it looks like. So, I put together some of the things that work for me, even when I’m by myself.
Some incredibly awkward fingering. Dan wasn’t part of my life for very long, but I don’t think I’ll ever forget him. Not because he was special to me, but because he gave me a very uncomfortable sexual experience. He bragged about how quickly he could give me an orgasm - I had to fake one so he would stop trying.
And this week on the podcast, Jake and I go over all the reasons men should be more vocal in bed!
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma ❤
Treat Yourself
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My Latest Medium Posts
These are the articles I published this week on Medium. They're all Friend Links so you can read them for free, even without a Medium Membership.
From Love, Emma
Being in an open relationship can be really exciting. You get the exhilaration of having a crush, the thrill of falling for someone new, and you can have multiple people meeting your every sexual need.
In theory, anyway.
But with every upside, there’s a downside. It takes a lot of juggling to make multiple relationships work. There’s jealousy and insecurities to deal with. And worst of all, you get more opportunities to have our heart broken.
That’s where opening up my marriage led me. In this piece from my blog Love, Emma, I shared my advice for getting over the pains that come when a relationship ends.
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
Want to become a better sex guy? Then, you've got to be more vocal.
Men making noise during sex is one of the hottest things. It's also not as common as it should be.
This week, we encourage everyone to be their sexiest selves by going over why being vocal makes sex so much better and how to avoid going overboard with the dirty talk.
We also talk about Jake's early birthday present, Emma's love of playful humiliation, and The Moaner.
Check out the show notes for relevant links. And if you love the show, consider rating and reviewing it on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Podchaser, or anywhere else!
New Exclusive Posts
This week, my Friends With Benefits got access to a bonus episode of the Pillow Talk podcast where Jake and I share the dirty details of our first time using a feather tickler during sex (spoiler: it was way hotter than either of us thought it would be!)
And Jake celebrated his birthday by writing a quick update about the next Pillow Talk episodes and shared a photo of himself (not a lewd or a nude, though - sorry!)
If you want access to these posts, including two bonus Pillow Talk episodes every month, head on over to our Patreon and become one of our Friends With Benefits!
Something Spicy
I love daddies! If you do, too, this book might be right up your alley. It's an erotic about meeting your best friend's dad and getting very well acquainted with him.
Seducing My Best Friend's Daddy
She calls him her “daddy,” but tonight he’s mine.
Tina warned me to be careful around her dad.
He’s got a wandering eye. And he and his wife have an “arrangement.”
I don’t want to do anything to jeopardize my friendship with Tina.
I know it’s wrong. He’s more than twice my age. But if we’re ever alone, I don’t know that I could resist.
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