When smut gets meaningful 💜🔥
Hi!
I had some false starts before I started writing about sex.
For a while, I wanted to start a vegan recipe blog.
Then there was the mom vlog. That didn’t last long.
I also looked into becoming a Suicide Girl, but that’s a whole other story.
None of it went anywhere.
Then I decided to write erotica.
I don’t know what inspired me, but it just felt right. I felt the urge to write and publish. I’ve always been very passionate and curious about sex. And if I’m being honest, I saw what some successful smut writers published and it didn’t seem that hard to pull off.
I came up with a few ideas, loaded up my word processor, and I got lost in the work.
I don’t know if I was a good erotica writer, but I know it came to me more naturally than any of the other things I tried to write.
With a good idea, I could write a short story from start to finish in a single day. Give me half a week and you’d have a novella.
These days, making money off erotica is usually all about building a big back catalog. I didn’t see any reason I couldn’t accomplish that.
I didn’t stick to it long enough to make real money, though. I wanted to earn enough to treat my husband to dinner and that’s about all I ever managed to do.
But I got something more meaningful than that.
I got a sense of purpose.
I got to feel excited about something again.
And I got horny - really fucking horny.
That’s something I hadn’t experienced in years. I had been in a sexless marriage. My relationship with my husband was strong but there was no desire and we were missing that physical connection.
I finally had it all back and I thanked my lucky stars I never stuck to the recipe blog because I don’t think that would have done much for my sex life.
This week, I wrote about how my stint writing erotica not only got me to have sex again, it also made me a much better fuck.
I also wrote about:
How to be sexier as a submissive. Whenever I see discussions of what makes somebody sexy, it almost never resonates with me. It’s all about being confident, powerful, and taking charge in the bedroom. I wanted to write about sexiness from the perspective of a girl like me, who just wants to be shy, give up control, and earn some praise.
Getting a guy to be more emotionally vulnerable with you. Vulnerability is tough for me. But it makes it tough to date them, too. Vulnerable guys are more attractive, they’re better at sex, they make stronger partners, and they’re just nicer to be around. The tricky part is getting them to open up, so I put together some tips to encourage your guy to do just that.
How to eat a girl out while fingering her pussy. Sounds simple in theory, but it’s harder than it seems in practice. There’s a lot going on - timing, rhythm, and doing different things with your fingers and your tongue. If you can’t rub your stomach and pat your head at the same time, there’s a good chance you need these tips.
And on this week’s episode of the Pillow Talk podcast, Jake and I go on a porn quest! Specifically, we get drunk and I help him uncover the porn he has trouble finding.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma ❤
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Treat Yourself
If you want to get yourself a little something fun, here are some companies I love supporting.
Have you tried a sex toy for couples yet? It’s a great way to get incredible clit stimulation while getting fucked by your partner. If you don’t have one yet, try the Optimale Vibrating Cock Ring - it gave me some really powerful orgasms. You can get it from Betty’s Toy Box and use the code LOVEEMMA to save 10% on your entire order.
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My Latest Medium Posts
These are the articles I published this week on Medium. They're all Friend Links so you can read them for free, even without a Medium Membership.
From Love, Emma
Have you ever had some amazing sex that made you feel connected, made you come really fucking hard, and make you so grateful you decided to take your clothes off - but it somehow left you feeling kind of bummed out?
It could have nothing to do with the sex itself. It could be what came after it.
Bad aftercare (or no aftercare) can leave you feeling anxious, depressed, alone, or distant. It’s a big fucking deal, and we don’t talk about it nearly enough.
So, this week on Love, Emma I posted an article all about it - why you need it and tips for making sure your aftercare is solid.
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
Do you have a hard time finding the porn you want?
Jake does. But that's because he sucks at searching for anything.
This week, we get drunk on bad daiquiris and I give Jake the search terms he needs to find the right wanking material.
We also discuss cabin dads who fuck, big titty goth girls, the sexiest footwear for women, risky handjobs, and the search term Pornhub wouldn't allow us to use.
Check out the show notes for relevant links. And if you love the show, consider rating and reviewing it on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Podchaser, or anywhere else!
Something Spicy
Of all my erotic stories, ths is the one that matters to me the most. Not because it was my first. Not because it was my kinkiest (it wasn’t). But it was the first one that made me feel like I could take it seriously as a project.
In the end, I wrote five parts to this story about a babysitter who falls for her hot, married client (and fucks him as often as she gets to). All of it is collected in this novella.
Nina has a thing for older men. And she’s got the hots for one in particular, Greg Thompson.
There’s only one problem. Greg is Nina’s boss.
Oh, and he’s married.
But working under him is the perfect opportunity for Nina to get closer to Greg and make him realize she’s exactly what he needs.
They fall madly in love, but will Greg ever be ready to leave his loveless marriage? Will Nina get her Happily Ever After with the man of her dreams or will she be left to pick up the pieces of her broken heart?
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