What counts as foreplay anyway? 🔥💦
Hi!
There are a few words I use regularly even though they don’t always feel quite right.
Foreplay is one of them.
I use it because I think it’s clear enough. Even if we’re not picturing the same stuff, we’re probably in the same ballpark.
Because foreplay isn’t any specific sex act.
It’s just whatever you do to build up to the main event - whatever that main event is.
For a lot of people, it’s everything you do before penetration.
But it can also be the massages, teasing, and dirty talk that happen before you go down on each other.
It could be slowly, gently fingering and stroking to work your way up to fingerfucking and jacking with more intensity.
Teasing and dirty talking to get you excited for a spanking orgasm counts too.
It can just be all the flirting and fantasizing that eventually blows up into a quickie.
And it’s really handy to have a word that describes all of that and then some.
But it sucks that people get really hung up on the idea that certain things are foreplay - and that those things don’t really count as sex.
That kind of thing can make people feel insecure. I know, because it did for me.
I love the primal satisfaction of getting a really good pounding.
But there have been times when I just wanted to suck and stroke and get eaten out.
There are nights when all I want is a good pussy massage and nothing else.
And I’ve definitely given blowjobs that felt like they should count as more than foreplay. They were emotionally intense, arousing, and deeply satisfying.
The idea that none of those things count as full-blown sex just doesn’t feel right.
That’s been on my mind for a few reasons.
The Slow Sex Experience Box is one. I keep opening new bottles, trying new things, and it makes me really fucking excited for things that some people would consider just foreplay.
And sure, sometimes it’s just an amazing way to work up to something else.
But other times, I’m good - if I’m building up to anything, it’s just more fingering, bigger orgasms, and a huge rush of hormones.
You don’t need to get fucked to experience any of that.
I’ve also been watching a lot more girl-on-girl porn lately - and feeling turned on and jealous.
I’m watching girls giving each sex that looks fucking amazing. I’m seeing passion, intense pleasure, and incredible climaxes.
There’s no way to watch that and think it’s just foreplay all the way through.
And then there’s me.
I’m still trying to shake off the idea that some kinds of sex aren’t good enough.
I feel a tiny bit guilty when I don’t want to do anything other than use our hands and mouth.
Same with pussy massages and happy ending rubdowns.
Or when the only thing I want to do with Mr. Austin’s cock is stroke it softly.
I know better than that. And I know that he’d probably rather do any of those things than watch the first half of a movie before we go to bed. But it’s like an emotional hangup that’s hard to shake off.
Like that stuff isn’t good enough.
Like it doesn’t count as sex - even though it feels like it does.
Like it’s just foreplay - even though just foreplay sounds hot as fuck.
I’m still working on those insecurities. And maybe with enough Girlsway videos and Finger Play Gel, I’ll manage to get over them even more quickly.
This Week’s New Articles
Did you ever get fucked so good it completely changed your mind about something?
That happened to me last week.
I hated shower sex. I gave up on it a long time ago. I was fine showering solo for good.
But then I got so turned on that I invited Mr. Austin to join me in the shower.
That just turned me on more.
And what happened after convinced me.
Shower sex doesn’t suck - it can be fucking amazing.
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Porn with fucking that looks genuinely pleasurable and intensely orgasmic isn’t hard to come by either.
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There’s something else I was insecure about.
The way I masturbate.
I’ve always been a humper. I love grinding my way to a climax.
But it always felt like I was doing it wrong.
Except I wasn’t.
So many women learn to get off by grinding - and a lot of us never ever stop.
And I finally got to try a vibrator that was made just for us!
It’s the Lust Dual Rider - a little grinding pad that helped me hump by way to lots of big, strong climaxes.
Sometimes I’m a little surprised when I hear about the way people fuck.
Not because of what they do, really. Mostly, it’s because of what they don’t do.
Every guy who has a lady wants to fuck her real good.
He wants to turn her on. He wants to give her intense pleasure and strong orgasms. He wants to leave her feeling impressed and thoroughly satisfied.
But a lot of guys never use the sex moves that would fire her up and make her come really hard.
So, I decided to put together three of the simplest ones. These moves should be essential, and you can use them all in one single fuck session to really drive her wild.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma ❤
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Let’s Get Personal 🖤
This week on the Pillow Talk Patreon, we put out a new Chatty Cathys bonus episode!
It’s our monthly-ish personal, not always about sex (but still often about sex) personal update.
We talked about what we’re doing to have more sex, shared some of our thoughts about Minx and Mrs. Fletcher, complained about Second Life - and talked about plants and cats.
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