There's no excuse for sex negativity 🤨👎
Hi!
Sex isn’t for everyone, I get that.
Some people just don’t care for it. They don’t see the appeal whatsoever - it just looks like a bunch of sweaty nonsense to them.
They satisfy their base urges with other vices instead.
It’s all good.
And even if you’re super into fucking, you won’t love every type of sex under the sun.
There are so many kinks and preferences and ways of doing it - some of it is bound to turn you off.
I don’t expect everyone to make sex one of their hobbies. I don’t insist that they should love movies with nudity and softcore scenes. I don’t care if they want to adjust their social media settings so everything stays G-rated.
But I do expect everyone to be at least sex positive.
Because you don’t have to love smut and spice to be chill about it.
Believe me, I know.
I might act like a Grade A sleazy pervert whenever I get my hands on a sex doll. But I’m also on a constant hormonal roller coaster - and when it goes down, it can go real low.
So low that I can even get sex repulsed.
That repulsion can take a lot of different forms.
It can make the thumbnails on porn sites look kind of icky to me - even the ones that would normally make me click so hard I almost jam my mouse.
It might make me feel bad when I see cute girls acting sexy. Instead of being enticed by them, I just feel jealous that they get to enjoy their bodies in ways that I can’t.
And it makes sex and masturbation sound like a chore instead of a perfect way to spend an evening.
That’s right - I’ve been so down that I don’t even want to look at a tit, let alone a pair of them. Thighs just become the things that hold a girl upright. I let all my OnlyFans subscriptions go to waste until it passes.
But even then, I don’t let myself sink into sex negativity.
I don’t get angry at people for enjoying their bodies - or other people’s bodies.
I don’t talk trash about anyone for indulging in their horny fantasies.
I don’t resent every topless woman I happen to lay eyes on.
Because sex repulsion just means I don’t have any desire for it. It makes all that sexy stuff seem really unappealing.
Sex negativity is something else altogether. It’s being judgmental. It’s raining on everyone’s bikini-and-boners parade. It’s wanting to impose your discomfort on them - to make it their problem instead of yours.
And that’s why it’s not cool. Not even a little bit.
There’s never any excuse for it - even if you’ve got the ick.
Love,
Emma ❤
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