The best way to go down on him 😏🍆
Hi!
A couple of years ago, I got really into blowjob porn.
Up until that point, I thought of blowjobs like a chore. I gave them because I knew my partner wanted them, but I didn’t get anything out of it.
The videos I was watching completely changed my mind.
The performers in them weren’t just sucking cock - they were worshiping them.
They seemed so eager to wrap their lips around a stiff shaft and they seemed so proud of how well they were handling them.
Watching them completely changed my attitude. Those women actually made giving a blowjob look like fun.
And the next time I gave one, I had fun too.
For the first time in my life, I didn’t just enjoy being the dirty girl who gives head or being the one who drives my boyfriend wild with her mouth. I actually wanted my mouth on his cock.
I kept watching those videos. Not only because they turned me on, but because I wanted to figure out the secret to giving a great blowjob.
I studied the techniques I saw performers use. I paid attention to what got the biggest reaction from the guys they were with. I picked up on a lot of moves I would start using.
But the one thing I noticed is that the best blowjobs weren’t the ones with the craziest techniques. They weren’t the ones that knew to focus on the frenulum. They weren’t the ones who deepthroated the hardest.
The best blowjobs were always the ones that were given with love, passion, and the kind of enthusiasm you just can’t fake.
That’s the skill I needed. Not just the desire to give a blowjob, but the ability to make my partner see and feel that desire.
If I was going to master cock sucking, I had to learn to convey my enthusiasm.
That was easier said than done. Every time I looked up blowjob advice, I got the same thing. Everyone says you should give an enthusiastic blowjob, but no one tells you exactly how to do that.
So, I went back to the real experts - those performers who can suck on a cock for 12 straight minutes and make it look like it’s their favorite thing in the world.
I looked for the things they did to convey that love and I did a little experimenting of my own. In the end, I nailed down five ways to convey your enthusiasm when giving head.
In addition to those tips, I also wrote about:
Going down on a woman with a full bush. This was a question from one of my podcast listeners. I was reluctant to tackle it because I don’t have any direct experience with this. But with a little research and consultation with my husband (who has the right kind of hands-on experience), I put together some advice navigating this situation.
The appeal of sleep porn. I’ve tried to have sleep sex once and it was a very weird and totally unsexy experience. But I keep coming back to sleep porn. In this article, I tease out exactly why it’s so damn hot even if the real thing is not.
The best sex positions when fucking a guy with a big cock. I find big dicks really challenging. It’s not like you can’t have sex with a guy who’s well-hung, but sometimes you need a few modifications to make it more enjoyable. One of those modifications is finding the right position. These are my four favorite ones for when his size is just too much.
And this week on the podcast, Jake and I talk about our first porn discoveries. We cover my strategies for not getting caught watching porn in the family living room, Jake finding dirty magazines, and how torrents changed everything.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma ❤
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My Latest Medium Posts
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From Love, Emma
Great communication is the foundation to great sex. But talking about sex openly and honestly doesn’t always come easily.
Some of us are too shy to lay everything out. Some of us are embarrassed by our kinks and desires. Some of us aren’t even comfortable with the kinds of words you have to use to spell out what we want.
That’s why I’m a really big fan of communication tools for couples. In this piece from my blog Love, Emma, I pick out a really helpful sex questionnaire for couples and go over some of the results my husband and I got when we filled it out.
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
How did you discover porn?
Jake and I are both big fans of porn now, but we discovered it in very different ways and at different parts of our lives.
This week, we tell those stories and talk about how our porn consumption has changed over the years.
We discuss my towel trick, finding dirty magazines in the woods, attempted uses of the Sears catalog, discretely mailing porn payments, and we cap it all off with lots of outtakes.
Check out the show notes for relevant links. And if you love the show, consider rating and reviewing it on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Podchaser, or anywhere else!
Something Spicy
The fantasy of fucking your best friend’s dad hits a lot of buttons for me. There’s the whole hot daddy thing. There’s the taboo of fucking someone you’re not supposed to. And there’s the experience gap that usually comes with that kind of age gap.
If those get you hot, too, you might just get off to this story.
Seducing My Best Friend's Daddy
She calls him her “daddy,” but tonight he’s mine.
Tina warned me to be careful around her dad.
He’s got a wandering eye. And he and his wife have an “arrangement.”
I don’t want to do anything to jeopardize my friendship with Tina.
I know it’s wrong. He’s more than twice my age. But if we’re ever alone, I don’t know that I could resist.
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