The best way to get off if you're too sensitive
Hi!
You would think having a sensitive clit would make sex better.
And yeah, I suppose it usually does.
But only after you troubleshoot a few things.
All that sensitivity gave me premature orgasms. Which are cool and everything, but before I trained my body to be multiorgasmic, it meant I often only had sex for a few minutes.
If I could even get to the sex without coming first, that is.
I eventually mastered that shit, but lately I’ve had another problem.
For about a year now, I’ve been struggling to come.
I can have little orgasms. Those are fun, but they never feel complete. I always want to go for more because I don’t feel fully satisfied.
It’s like I tasted the appetizer but got kicked out of the restaurant before the main course.
I’ve worn myself raw trying to get a strong orgasm.
I’ve been fucked so hard I could feel it in my abs the next day.
I’ve been edged to the point of being so desperate for a release I was almost in tears.
No matter what I tried, it would often end in frustration.
But I finally cracked it, guys. I figured out why I wasn’t having great orgasms even though I’ve got a really sensitive clit.
Turns out the sensitivity was the problem.
So I tried an experiment. I wanted to see if I could have better orgasms if I mostly avoided clitoral stimulation.
It was really counterintuitive, and I felt a little crazy when I asked my husband to help me with it.
But it worked. I got to have the best of both worlds: orgasms in the double digits and a really strong climax at the end.
My g-spot is pretty fucking sore, but it doens’t matter. It was totally worth it.
This week, I wrote all about my little experiment, how it went, and why it’s the perfect approach to sex when your clit is more sensitive than the average lady’s.
I also wrote about what a woman means when she says “Don’t stop!” or “I’m going to come!” during sex. It might sound obvious, but it’s not and most guys get it wrong.
I made the case that real love is boring and that believing otherwise can get you in some serious relationship trouble.
I’ve also been trying out forced dirty talk, so I wrote about why I’ve asked my husband to force me to say things I’m not comfortable saying during sex.
I reviewed my favorite audio porn creator, Feel Good Filth. If you’re a straight lady, trust me on this one - it’s incredibly hot!
And this week on the podcast, Mr. Austin and I talk about how we deal with porn use in our relationship, our favorite types of porn to get off to, and that time I caught him jerking off to some.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma
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New on Love, Emma
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I also uploaded my guide to what might just be the most essential sex skill.
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
Does your partner know you watch porn?
For a while, we kept our porn habits a secret from each other. Now, we've found a much better way.
This week on the Pillow Talk podcast, we talk about how to make porn a part of your relationship, our favorite types of porn, why porn privacy is better than porn secrecy, that time I caught Jake watching porn (and the reason he never caught me!)
Something Spicy
If you read my review of Feel Good Filth, you’ll know that I’m into the whole daddy thing.
The whole concept of a daddy represents basically everything I love in a man. Confident and caring. Giving and in charge. And ideally, a nice beard and a mature sense of style.
So, this week, I thought I’d share an erotic story I wrote about a daddy - specifically, about a best friend’s dad.
Come on, admit it. You’ve fantasized about it, too!
Seducing My Best Friend's Daddy
She calls him her “daddy,” but tonight he’s mine.
Tina warned me to be careful around her dad.
He’s got a wandering eye. And he and his wife have an “arrangement.”
I don’t want to do anything to jeopardize my friendship with Tina.
I know it’s wrong. He’s more than twice my age. But if we’re ever alone, I don’t know that I could resist.
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