Talk dirty to me 🔥😍
Hi!
Have you ever been in a long-term relationship but felt like you were fucking a new person?
That’s kind of what my sex life has been like for the last year.
My husband and I have both grown and changed in so many ways. We connect more deeply, communicate more easily, and we fuck very differently.
We explored bondage and explored it often.
We’ve added all sorts of sex toys, costumes, and lingerie to our closet.
We’ve made happy ending massages, mutual masturbation, and porn dates a part of our lives.
But one of the things that has made the biggest difference is that we stopped having quiet sex.
A year ago, Mr. Austin couldn’t talk dirty even if he had to. Now, it’s second nature to him.
It’s a huge improvement and it really does feel like I’m sleeping with a new man.
When he fucks me, he lets out so many words and phrases that make me feel wanted, that make me feel hot, that make him seem confident and capable, and that turn me the fuck on.
And as he got better at it, I started seeing how all the little nuances mattered.
It’s not just the words he says, it’s how he says them. The delivery. The tone. The way his voice conveys his desire even more than his words do.
It’s also the rhythm and the timing. He says a lot but almost never says too much. And he can often find the right thing to say at the perfect moment.
Those are the things that make dirty talk so fucking hot.
It’s also why advice on dirty talk often feels kind of bland.
Some articles do a great job teaching you how to talk dirty. But most of them either don’t give you enough examples, give you some really clinical and unsexy ones, or they give some that are too generic.
I wanted to give some real examples of dirty talk, to show what it’s really like when you let go and say whatever filthy thing comes to mind during sex.
But I was struggling to put together a list. I kept filling out a bunch of context to show what made the words I was putting down so hot. That made it kind of messy.
Just putting the words in on their own didn’t help. It gave examples of things you could say but didn’t really show you how to use them.
So, I decided that the most helpful thing I could do is put all the context out on the page. I wrote out the things Mr. Austin and I did the last time we had fucked, along with all the things we said to each other while we did it.
This week, I also wrote about:
My first time using a sex machine. I’ve wanted to get fucked by a machine ever since I’ve first saw it in a porn scene. I loved the idea of having a toy that could fuck me, of adding hands-free penetration to my solo play, and living out some of my threesome fantasies by using it with my husband. Well, I finally got one and it did not disappoint at all!
How to communicate during sex. Communication is essential for great sex, but it can be tricky to actually do it during sex. It’s different than the conversations you have before sex and the debriefings you have after a fuck. You need a way to say everything you want to say without interrupting the action or ruining your flow. Sadly, there isn’t a lot of advice out there on how to have good communication while you’re banging, so I put together my tips.
And this week on the Pillow Talk podcast, Jake and I answer the question of whether we’d do porn (we want to, but it’s complicated). We also talk about our latest podcast milestone (25k listens, and we’re just shy of 30k now), express our gratitude to our listeners, and talk about what our next moves are going to be.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma ❤
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Treat Yourself
If you want to get yourself a little something fun, here are some companies I love supporting.
I don’t think fuck machines are all that common, but they really should be. After using one, I think there should be a sex machine under every woman’s Christmas tree this year. I got my Table Top 2 Premium Sex Machine from Hismith and I highly recommend checking out what they have to offer. Use the code 57DLS5TZ to save 5% on your order.
If you’re going to fuck a machine, you’ll want to have plenty of lube on hand. My current go-to is Sliquid Sassy. It’s a water-based lubricant that’s thick, slippery, and long-lasting. It’s designed for anal sex but it’s amazing for pussy play as well. Get it from Betty’s Toy Box and use the code LOVEEMMA to save 10% on your entire order.
Lately, I’ve been watching girl-girl videos with Emily Willis. She’s just so fucking hot and I can’t get enough of her when she’s on screen, especially on Girlsway. If you want to get full access to it, use the code LOVEEMMA to save 20% when you sign up for a 30-day membership.
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My Latest Medium Posts
These are the articles I published this week on Medium. They're all Friend Links so you can read them for free, even without a Medium Membership.
From Love, Emma
Before I got to fuck a machine, I tried to get one to dirty talk to me.
As soon as I found out there was a chatbot designed to sext you, I was all in. I missed having someone to exchange dirty messages with. And I could set it so I was dirty talking with a lady, which was a very big plus for this hopelessly romantic bisexual.
I knew I’d write about it, so I took plenty of screenshots as I went. If you want to see those and read how it went, check out my article about it on Love, Emma.
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
Have we filmed porn? Yes.
Would we do porn? That's a little more complicated.
The podcast hit a milestone this week and we used it as an opportunity to talk about the future. What shape is the podcast going to take? Will we be podcasting into our 80s? Or are we just going to give it all up to do porn?
We also talk about my bathsturbation routine, celebratory donuts, being horny control freaks, brand management, and why we'll probably never have sponsors.
Check out the show notes for relevant links. And if you love the show, consider rating and reviewing it on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Podchaser, or anywhere else!
Something Spicy
Now that I know what it’s like to be fucked by a machine, I’m convinced that getting fucked by a robot would just put me over the goddamn moon.
Here’s an erotic story I wrote about a bout of robot sex. I’m still hopeful that this will become a thing!
After six years of marriage, I didn't think Neil could still surprise me.
But boy was I wrong.
When Neil buys a robot for me, everything changes.
I never thought I'd ever want to sleep with a machine. But it has all these features and I can't help but wonder how much it can do.
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