One simple trick to revive your sex life
Hi!
I used to be in a sexless marriage, and it sucked.
But it also gave me a lot of insights into why a couple’s sex life can practically die after being together for a few years.
My relationship was solid. We loved each other. We spent a lot of time together and had plenty of intimacy.
We just barely ever fucked.
If you would’ve asked me at the time, I probably would’ve said it’s because I was sick.
Being chronically ill gave me brain fog, anxiety, and shriveled my libido.
I might have also said that I was just getting older and settled. That’s what happens to people who get married, right? They just lose interest in sex after a while.
I was just putting my energy into cake decorating and photography instead, like a regular housewife.
But now that I look back, I think one of the biggest reasons I didn’t want to have sex is that I just didn’t feel sexy.
I was a stay at home mom whose life revolved around snacks and tantrums.
I was in frumpy mode like all the time.
And I wasn’t a big fan of the way my body looked after it had given birth to a few kids.
My husband was drowning in research, assignments, and writing projects so he didn’t have time to turn on the charm or flirt with me.
When we did have sex, there was no passion to it. It felt rushed, like we were just using each other’s bodies for a release.
Not really something I couldn’t get enough of.
I needed a lot of things to get my mojo back.
I had to be put on the right medication.
I had to find a creative outlet so I could feel more fulfilled.
But mostly, I needed to feel desired. That meant more compliments and connection, more seduction, and being treated like a good submissive in the bedroom.
This week, I wrote about how not feeling desired is probably the reason she's losing interest in sex, and a few tips to help her get it back.
I also put together some tips for fingering your gal, wrote about why I often masturbate instead of having sex (and why I don’t feel guilty about it), and reviewed the first sex toy that actually feels like it’s going down on me.
And on the new episode of the Pillow Talk podcast, Jake and I answer listener questions and talk about what it was like to open our marriage.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma
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New on Love, Emma
This week on Love, Emma, a post about what it took for Mr. Austin and I to be open and honest about our masturbation habits, and how it changed the way we get ourselves off.
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
Do I want to peg my husband?
How did Jake handle his insecurities when I started flirting with other men?
What's the right way to be there for your partner when you open up a relationship?
This week, we're answering questions that our listeners have submitted and things get raw and vulnerable.
Something Spicy
I think every submissive person has a thing for authority figures. In fact, that’s one of the things I loved about going to university - I had a lot of really hot professors.
I followed all the instructions on the syllabus to the letter. I handed in my assignments early. I edited my work thoroughly.
I think my professors could tell I was a really good student.
But I fantasized about them treating me like a good girl.
Here’s a little something from my horny imagination.
Spanked by My Pedantic Professor
Madame Delacroix is really strict when it comes to the rules. If I make any grammatical mistakes on my paper, she calls me into her office.
She isn’t like my other professors. She’s not afraid to teach me a lesson.
And she knows I’m going to love every second of it.
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