Men just don't know how to be hot 😔🧊
Hi!
I just unsubscribed to an OnlyFans account because it disappointed the heck out of me.
And I’m not gonna name names or anything like that. I’m not here to trash anyone trying to make a living with their body.
But I’m mentioning it because it got me thinking about men and how much they struggle with being hot.
Because this guy had a lot going for him.
Lookswise, a total hottie - complete with tattoos and a smirky smile that can make butterflies appear in your stomach.
He’s got a real charm to him, too. I discovered him on TikTok, where he talks in a way that makes you - well, it makes you want to sub to his OnlyFans.
But once I did, all that sexiness just faded away.
Behind the paywall, it’s like I was looking at a completely different person.
Instead of this incredibly hot guy who knew just how to seduce the camera, there was just a naked dude.
With a nice physique and all. But the vibe just wasn’t the same.
The way he posed didn’t match the attitude he brought to his videos.
Instead of dirty talk, it was basically just dick. And honestly, the dick was too big - kind of intimidating and a bit large for his frame.
I might’ve been okay with that if I could see it in action. Watch him lube it and stroke it. See him come all over himself. And more importantly, hear him finish himself off.
So, kind of letdown.
And it often is with guys. Not because they’re guys, but because they just don’t know what it takes to be a hot guy.
I think it’s because straight dudes never look at men the way women do.
Women pick up on the way men see them. They know exactly how to make themselves appealing to guys. They know what drives dudes wild. Even if they’re not into women, they know what makes a woman sexy.
Straight guys don’t really have that. They know what makes a man look cool or intimidating to other men, but not what kind of guy makes a girl feel warm in her nether regions.
It’s why they’re so shocked by who women find attractive. It fries their brains because it’s never the kind of guy they admire - or assume women would fawn over.
And it’s why they kinda suck at being hot.
Because they’ll either lean into whatever they find appealing in men - tight muscles, a domineering attitude, or whatever else makes them jealous. Or they’ll kind of imitate what they find hot in women - which is how I ended up basically paying for dick pics.
Which is too bad, because it causes a whole lot of frustration.
Not just because girls like me have to turn off rebills instead of developing a parasocial crush on a guy and jilling off to his videos.
But because guys want to be hot. Like, they want it so bad.
They want girls to fall for them. They want to turn heads. They want to feel desired.
They want their wives to fuck them more.
They want other people’s wives to wonder what it’d be like to fuck them.
But they often get it wrong. They don’t look at guys the way women do, so they don’t know what actually makes them attractive - and that means they have no idea how to make themselves more attractive.
And there’s no real shortcut to learning that - other than listening to women.
If you’re a straight guy who wants to be hotter, I’d start by building a lot of confidence and becoming secure in yourself. That’s number one, for sure.
Showing off your forearms and doing things with your hands helps, too.
Displaying emotions other than anger and horniness is definitely a plus.
Being flirty and talking dirty - those are very important hot guy traits.
After that, the details get a little trickier to describe. But you should be able to pick up on them if you really listen to women.
So pay attention to what your wife or girlfriend finds really appealing. Believe women when they say they’re into certain types of dudes. And most importantly, forget every single thing a straight guy has ever told you about what women want.
Women are the experts about what they find attractive, so try to see yourself through their eyes.
Otherwise, you’ll just be another dude struggling with his hotness.
Love,
Emma ❤
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