Let's talk size 🍆
Hi!
Over my lifetime, I’ve seen the narrative about dick size change a lot.
When I was young, the message I got everywhere is that bigger is better.
And really, there’s still a lot of that going around.
It’s hard to watch a lot of porn and not get the impression that women love huge cocks.
And there are still plenty of body shaming assholes out there who will make fun of smaller dicks.
But we’ve at least come to a point where we keep seeing challenges to this.
Ask almost any woman and she’ll tell you that size doesn’t make a difference.
That’s great. It’s major progress as far as I’m concerned.
But it’s also not quite right.
It’s true that dick size isn’t the biggest factor when it comes to good sex. And you can have great sex with a guy who is any size.
The size does make a difference, though. Sex feels different with a bigger cock.
That’s not necessarily a good thing, though.
I married a guy with a big dick, so I know first-hand that it can make sex difficult.
This week, I wrote about all the challenges that come when you’re with a guy who is well-hung.
I also wrote about enthusiastic consent and what it really means, why I’m happy I can finally have outdoor sex again, all the early signs I was bisexual, and some of the ways I keep seeing men messing up their approach when they reach out to women.
And on the Pillow Talk podcast, Jake and I talk about vaginismus, why his size was a huge problem, and his enjoyment of carjacking porn.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma ❤
Jake Was on Fucks Given!
Jake was actually on two podcasts this week. In addition to co-hosting Pillow Talk with me, he was a guest on Fucks Given!
Fucks Given is a podcast hosted by Florence Barkway and Reed Amber (the awesome ladies behind the Come Curious YouTube channel).
They asked Jake to share some of his sexual history, including his best fuck, his worst fuck (not me, thankfully!), and the fuck that made him.
If you want to hear him talk about delayed ejaculation, anal sex, sleep roleplay, edging, and lots more, check it out here.
Treat Yourself
If you want to get yourself a little something fun, here are some companies I love supporting.
If you’re not a size queen either, check out the Beginner Dildos section from Betty’s Toy Box (don’t worry, they’re lots of fun for experienced girls too)! Use the code LOVEEMMA to save 10% on your entire order.
If you’re a fellow Canadian, have a look at the selection from Naughty North. LOVEEMMA gets you 10% on your entire order from them, too.
And for access to lots and lots of quality porn, check out Adult Time. Use the code LOVEEMMA to save 20% off your 30-day membership.
These are all affiliate links by the way. If you click them and make a purchase (or use one of my discount codes), I earn a small commission on the sale and you will be supporting my work.
My Latest Medium Posts
These are the articles I published this week on Medium. They're all Friend Links so you can read them for free, even without a Medium Membership.
New From Love, Emma
I’ve never been into make up sex.
Maybe it’s because I’m a demisexual. It could be my praise kink and my need for reassurance. Or maybe I just don’t have the right arousal triggers. But whatever it is, I just don’t see the appeal.
This week on Love, Emma, I shared my thoughts on make up sex and what I need instead.
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
Here's a riddle: when does your pussy act like an asshole?
When you've got vaginismus.
Vaginismus ruined my sex life for years and made me worry that I'd never get to fuck again.
This week, Jake and I discuss the condition, what causes it, and how you can manage and overcome it.
We also talk about those porn videos where women watch guys jerking off in their cars, how my body tried to tell me to become a nun, and yet another reason why big dicks can be a challenge.
Something Spicy
Are these stories entirely factual? No, not entirely. But they’re still mine and I cherish them for that.
All of my erotica has a special place in my heart. But this is the collection of stories that helped me regain some sexual agency, process my past, and embrace my kinks.
So what if they’re only true-ish.
Erotic Confessions of a Canadian Girl: Seven True Stories
Before I wrote erotica, I lived it. And I’m finally ready to share those explorations, experiments, and adventures.
When you live in a small city on the East Coast of Canada, you need to find ways to pass the time. For me, that meant lots of naughty, dirty, lip-biting fun.
Giving my virginity, my first time with a woman, being naughty in public with a large audience, getting frisky with two strangers on a train – I share it all in explicit detail.
These true stories still turn me on, and I know they’ll get you excited, too.
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