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Hi!
I sometimes hate telling people Iām sexually submissive.
Itās not because Iām ashamed of it or anything like that.
Iām just worried the wrong types of people will shoot their shot.
When you start getting into BDSM, you quickly learn the difference between two types of dominant guys.
First, there are the proper doms. Theyāre the ones whoāll give you exactly what you want, know how to make you feel comfortable even when theyāre tying you down and flogging your ass, and have ways of commanding your respect.
Yes to all that. A good dom could make me very weak in the knees.
But thereās another type of dominant guy: the fuckboi dom.
Heās actually less dominant and more domineering.
Heāll be quick to claim the dom title and maybe even insist you call him āsirā or some shit like that long before he earned it.
He doesnāt know what you want, but he thinks he does. It doesnāt matter, though, because heās more interested in doing whatever the hell he wants to you.
To him, a submissive woman isnāt someone he can lead and satisfy. Itās someone whoāll let him do whatever he wants.
He demands respect instead of commanding it, and youāll probably never feel fully comfortable with him - even before the restraints go on.
I needed to find a way to separate the two types of people. If I ever start getting mixed up with someone dominant, how can I tell the ones who are able to take control from me in the right way from the ones who would make me regret giving it?
I figured it out. Thereās one trait that every good dominant guy has, no matter what type of domination heās into. Unless he has it, no one should be submitting to him.
This week, I wrote about the biggest tell-tale sign that someone is or isnāt ready to dominate you.
I also wrote about one of the most popular pieces of relationship advice out there. Lots of people say you canāt find love until you love yourself first. Thatās true, but not in the way most people think.
Iāve also decided to put together a roundup of all my best, favorite, and most popular articles about domination and submission. If youāre interested in getting a little more kink in your life, be sure to check them out!
And this week on the Pillow Talk podcast, Jake and I talk about masturbation. We talk about why itās an important part of our lives, how we accidentally wound up with a joint masturbation room, mutual masturbation, and both times Jake has had his mouth on his own dick (because, hey, why not?)
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma ā¤
Treat Yourself
If you want to get yourself something fun and kinky, here are some companies I love supporting.
If you want to try dominance and submission, I recommend getting a really good set of restraints. My personal favorite is the Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System. Itās very versatile and incredibly discreet. You can get it from Bettyās Toy Box, and use the discount code LOVEEMMA at checkout to save 10% on your entire order.
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My Latest Medium Posts
These are the articles I published this week on Medium. They're all Friend Links so you can read them for free, even without a Medium Membership.
My Best BDSM Articles
Want to explore your submissive side? Want to try a little domination but youāre not sure where to start? Here are the best articles Iāve written about BDSM. Starting with my own personal journey to discovering my kinks.
Have a Question for Me or My Husband?
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If you have a question that youād like us to answer on our podcast, just reply to this email or DM one of us with it and weāll consider it for our next Ask Us Anything episode!
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
Do you remember the first time you masturbated?
I don't. But I know it was a really long time ago.
In this episode, Jake and I talk about about my earliest masturbation memory, how I get myself off these days, and why we make it a regular habit.
We cover using fingers instead of toys, incorporating ass play, and mutual masturbation (because self-love doesn't always have to be solo!)
Something Spicy
I think every submissive person has a thing for authority figures. In fact, thatās one of the things I loved about going to university - I had a lot of really hot professors.
I followed all the instructions on the syllabus to the letter. I handed in my assignments early. I edited my work thoroughly.
I think my professors could tell I was a really good student.
But I fantasized about them treating me like a good girl.
Hereās a little something from my horny imagination.
Spanked by My Pedantic Professor
Madame Delacroix is really strict when it comes to the rules. If I make any grammatical mistakes on my paper, she calls me into her office.
She isnāt like my other professors. Sheās not afraid to teach me a lesson.
And she knows Iām going to love every second of it.
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