I consider oral sex a deal-breaker.
That doesn’t mean I think everyone has to do it. If someone’s not into it, that’s more than fine.
But personally, I just don’t see how I could have a really satisfying sex life without it.
It wasn’t always that way. When I was younger, I was intrigued by the idea and I really wanted to try it out. But I was fine just getting fucked.
Now, I think I’d miss it way too much.
There’s the fact that it’s so incredibly intimate. Someone using their mouth on you is about as close as you can feel to someone.
There’s also something really loving about it. Even when it’s done in a dirty, passionate, hungry way, it still makes you feel taken care of.
And of course, the orgasms. They’re not usually show-stoppers, they’re not up there with the intense full-body pleasure I can get from pussy massages, but they’re still some of the best.
So yeah, I want to be in a relationship where my pussy gets eaten. But I don’t want it to feel like a courtesy. I don’t want just a few licks to get me going - I want to feel like time slows down when someone’s face is between my thighs.
I think everyone should get to enjoy that, but not everyone does.
I’m basing this on anecdotes, but it seems like lots of women are getting oral sex on the regular but still not getting much of it.
Some guys tap out soon after they start. They’re usually the ones who act like eating pussy is a chore instead of a privilege.
Some of them only keep it going long enough to secure a blowjob in return.
Other guys think a minute is plenty. That, or they have a terrible sense of time.
No matter the reason, the result is the same: lots of unsatisfied and sexually frustrated ladies.
Today, I decided to share a few tips to help all of us get more of the oral sex we need and crave. Even if you’re getting plenty, doing these things will still encourage him to go longer.
Eating pussy enthusiastically is a great way to keep a woman sexually satisfied. And giving good blowjobs is one way to keep a guy feeling the same way.
But there’s a lot more to it than that.
People often talk about guys having very simple sexual needs - staring at tits, getting blowjobs, and maybe enjoying the occasional anal.
It’s not true. Not for most guys anyway. There are other things they want out of sex. They’re just not always great about articulating it.
I’m hooked on app-controlled sex toys! Seriously, they’re so fucking fun for going solo, with a partner, or doing some control play.
And I’m really into the Satisfyer line of toys. I didn’t think I could find really good app-controlled toys that were still affordable, but they proved me wrong.
This week, I reviewed the Double Joy, a Satisfyer toy that combines wearable remote control play, G-spot stimulation, and clitoral vibration.
It was the perfect toy to bring outdoors on the first really sunny day of the year.
Pussyjobs are seriously underrated.
They combine cock-on-pussy action with the clitoral stimulation most women need to get off.
They’re also really visually stimulating - watching a stiff cock slide across a wet pussy is a very arousing sight.
And you can add variety by doing them in lots of different ways. These are the seven best positions for making a pussyjob hot, pleasurable, and exciting.
Double penetration is really intimidating and logistically complicated - but it’s still a major fantasy for a lot of people.
And I can’t blame them. Anal and pussy pounding at the same time? Two guys making you feel good? Three hot bodies pressed close together?
Hot, hot, hot!
The only problem is that pulling it off takes three people. And I don’t know about everyone else, but I don’t have a second guy I’m attracted to enough, trust enough, and is willing enough to come help my husband fill me up.
So I find other ways to experience the fantasy. And so far, they’ve all been highly pleasurable and satisfying.
And this week, Jake and I hit a major podcast milestone. The Pillow Talk podcast has officially reached 50 episodes!
We celerbate by talking about what’s coming next, giving an update about what polyamory means to us right now (we’re both more and less open than before, if that makes sense), and by asking our listeners to reach out and tell us about themselves!
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A Personal Favorite
Women are really sweet - and that can be a problem.
It can be tough to read them because it’s hard to tell when they’re being really friendly and when they’re trying to be more than friendly.
As a bisexual lovebug, I find myself analyzing the way women talk to me. I can never tell if they’re flirting or just being nice.
If you want to get yourself a little something fun, here are some companies I love supporting!
If you don’t have remote controlled sex toys because you think you can’t afford them, you need to check out the Double Joy. It’s got two vibrators, an app with a simple interface, and you can fuck your playlist if you want to. Get it from Betty’s Toy Box and use the code LOVEEMMA at checkout to save 10% on your entire order!
Or get something from Naughty North! They’re Betty’s Canadian sister site and they’re the first place I check when I want to order myself something fun and sexy - like a Tenga Spinner or the tastiest lube I’ve ever tried! LOVEEMMA saves you 10% from them, too!
Another great way to get your guy to lick your pussy longer is to give him lots of inspiration. If he’s into girl-on-girl porn, treat him to a Girlsway membership so he can watch some of the hottest pussy action you’ll find online (and he might even learn a technique or two)! Use the code LOVEEMMA to save 20% on an Adult Time membership and get full access to Girlsway along with it!
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Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
I can't believe it! It's our 50th episode!
How awesome is that!?
Jake and I decided it would be a great time to share some updates. Not just about future plans (merch, videos, and maybe some audio porn) but also about us. Specifically, what's the deal with our polyamory?
We haven't brought it up in a while, but in a way we're both less and more polyamorous than we were when we last checked in.
We also talk about the long road to 50, our hypothetical throuple bubble, spooking easily, being the laziest unicorn hunters, and fucking fruit for Patreon!
Oh, and we want to hear from you! Reach out and tell us something about you!
Check out the show notes for relevant links. And if you love the show, consider rating and reviewing it on Apple Podcasts or anywhere else!
New Friends With Benefits Episode!
This week, my Friends With Benefits got access to a bonus episode of the Pillow Talk podcast where Jake and I dove deep into the porn comments section and talked about the man who appears to be hell-bent on ruining my favorite porn!
I try not to make enemies, but sometimes it just happens.
If you want to hear it (and get two bonus Pillow Talk episodes every month), head on over to our Patreon and become one of our Friends With Benefits!
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