It's not always easy being a dom š³
Hi!
When I wanted to start exploring kink, I was worried about myself.
I was the submissive one, so I felt like I was taking all the risks.
The restraints would be on my wrists. It would be my throat getting choked, my hair getting pulled, and my ass getting paddled.
I was giving up control, and that exposes me to a lot of emotional risks.
It never really occurred to me that things could go wrong for my husband, too.
He was getting to express his dominant side, and that seemed safe. Difficult, maybe, but safe.
I was wrong about that.
He learned the hard way that thereās something known as dom drop or top drop. Thatās what happens when your kinky fun doesnāt quite go well - or goes well but puts you in a difficult place emotionally.
It can feel like depression. It can be mental and emotional exhaustion.
For Mr. Austin, it was guilt mixed with anxiety.
It was also entirely avoidable.
This week, I wrote about top drop - why it happens and what submissives can do to prevent it in their dominant partners.
I published an article about that whole āwomen are attracted to jerksā myth and whatās really going on when it seems like a girl has a thing for assholes.
I also wrote about Savannah Solo and why sheās the first girl to create porn that feels like an authentic girlfriend experience.
And the Pillow Talk podcast is back! I sat in my little recording nook with Jake and we talked about eating pussy, including my multiple first time stories.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma ā¤
Treat Yourself
If you want to get yourself a little something fun, here are some companies I love supporting.
If youāre into bondage, you should try the Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraints System - itās super convenient, discreet, and perfect for subby pillow princesses. Get yours from Bettyās Toy Box and use the code LOVEEMMA at checkout to save 10% on your entire order.
If you want to explore impact play, consider the Heart Beat Crop. It feels really good smacking against your ass, your tits, or anywhere else - and it looks super cute. Mr. Austin got it for me from Naughty North - use the code LOVEEMMA at checkout to save 10% on your order.
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My Latest Medium Posts
These are the articles I published this week on Medium. They're all Friend Links so you can read them for free, even without a Medium Membership.
From Love, Emma
There are girls out there who donāt like getting eaten out. But theyāre rare. Most of the time, if sheās turning down oral, itās because of the way itās being offered.
In this post from Love, Emma, I go over why women take a pass on oral and how you can give it to her the way she really wants it.
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
Is there anything more intimate than eating pussy?
In this episode, we talk about Jake's first time going down, give tips for doing it well, and go over Emma's multiple near misses and first times.
Emma also shares her most embarrassing sex story and spills the juicy details about how she's been playing with our partial sex doll Pussy Tits.Ā
Something Spicy
I think every submissive person has a thing for authority figures.
Thatās one of the reasons I loved going to university. I had so many hot professors.
I did my work diligently. I knew they could tell I was a really good student.
But I fantasized about them treating me like a good girl.
Hereās a little something from my horny imagination.
Spanked by My Pedantic Professor
Madame Delacroix is really strict when it comes to the rules. If I make any grammatical mistakes on my paper, she calls me into her office.
She isnāt like my other professors. Sheās not afraid to teach me a lesson.
And she knows Iām going to love every second of it.
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