How to make it hot for her, too đ
Hi!
Iâve had a bit of a journey with blowjobs.
When I started giving head to my boyfriends, I loved being the girl who sucked cock. But I didnât love the act itself.
When I got settled down, the blowjobs became less frequent. I was giving them out of obligation. He ate me out, so I felt like I had to go down on him too.
Then I gave them up altogether.
They were just a chore to me, and I already had more of those than I could handle.
For about nine years of my marriage, my mouth was off limits.
Then, I had a major change of heart.
I started writing erotica and I realized I wasnât exactly the most qualified to write vivid, tantalizing, steamy blowjob scenes.
I couldnât remember the last time I had a dick in my mouth. But I didnât want to write erotica without any oral.
So, I did some research.
I went to all the usual places. Other erotica writers. Blog posts describing good blowjob techniques. And porn. Lots and lots of porn.
I watched lots of amateur blowjobs. The kind where a lady sets up a camera, gets on her knees, takes her boyfriendâs cock in her mouth, and doesnât stop sucking him off until he comes all over her tongue, her face, or her tits.
I watched those videos with lots of curiosity. That curiosity turned to fascination. Fascination turned to intense arousal.
For the first time in my life, I understood the appeal of giving a blowjob.
Thatâs when I started doing more hands-on research.
That was even more fun than the porn. I loved taking my husbandâs cock in my mouth. It was so fun to swirl my tongue around the tip of his head. I liked the challenge of trying to stroke his shaft while bobbing on his cock (itâs not as easy as it seems!)
Then something else changed. Not me this time, but him. He started getting more vocal during sex. He learned to talk dirty. He adopted a more dominant attitude and holy hell did it ever suit him.
I thought giving head was fun and arousing. But it wasnât anywhere nearly as hot as giving it to someone who really knew how to receive one.
I went from thinking of blowjobs as a chore to craving his cock between my lips. And the way he received that attention is one of the biggest reasons for it.
Iâve written before about how to give a really good blowjob. This week, I decided to write about the other side of the coin: the right way to receive a blowjob if you want her to love it, do it better, and take you in her mouth more often.
I also shared advice on what to do if your partner doesnât share your kink, how to approach them if you want to have a threesome with a friend (and improve your odds of getting a yes), and 13 basic pieces of sex advice that too few people know or follow.
And because everyone loves a good, deep fuck once in a while, I put together a list of the best sex positions for achieving deeper penetration (all of which I use regularly and can vouch for).
Speaking of vouching for something, I also reviewed my favorite new sex toy: the Sultry by Pillow Talk. Itâs a wand vibrator that doesnât kill my clit, and itâs a got a handle that wiggles, vibrates, and warms up. Iâve used it almost exclusively since I got it - itâs that good.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma â¤
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My Latest Medium Posts
These are the articles I published this week on Medium. They're all Friend Links so you can read them for free, even without a Medium Membership.
From Love, Emma
I sometimes wonder how many people are in the same place I was in. Drawn to BDSM but reluctant to explore it because pain and punishment just turn them off.
If thatâs you, you might be into sensual submission or sensual domination.
Learning about sensual domination opened up my world. It helped me understand what I really needed out of sex and exactly what kind of submissive I am.
If you think that might be you, check out this post from my personal blog Love, Emma. It was my first article exploring sensual domination and what BDSM looks like when itâs focused on pleasure and reward.
Have a Question for Me or My Husband?
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Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
People write to me about my husbandâs cock. Mostly, they want to know how his progress is going with his phimosis.
Since so many people seem invested in his dick, I thought I would share the first episode we recorded about it.
This one is all about my husbandâs dick - his phimosis, his death grip, and his delayed ejaculation.
Something Spicy
I love daddies! If you do, too, this book might be right up your alley. It's an erotic about meeting your best friend's dad and getting very well acquainted with him.
Seducing My Best Friend's Daddy
She calls him her âdaddy,â but tonight heâs mine.
Tina warned me to be careful around her dad.
Heâs got a wandering eye. And he and his wife have an âarrangement.â
I donât want to do anything to jeopardize my friendship with Tina.
I know itâs wrong. Heâs more than twice my age. But if weâre ever alone, I donât know that I could resist.
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