How to avoid turning her cold after getting her hot ❄⛄
Hi!
If you want to get in bed with a woman, you need to do two things.
First, you’ve got to turn her on.
You have to redden her cheeks with arousal, get her so filled with anticipation that she’s biting her lip, and keep her thoughts on all the dirty things she hopes you’ll do to her.
Then, you have to make sure you don’t do anything that messes that up.
That’s an incredibly important step.
Even women who have a high sex drive will struggle to keep it up when there’s something actively turning them off.
For low libido gals like me, it’s even worse. It doesn’t take much to get me from sixty to zero.
It’s easy to avoid, but there are a handful of really common turn-offs that plenty of guys do - probably without even realizing it.
Since I’m all for people having more and better sex, I thought I’d put together a list of the turn-offs that women complain about the most.
This week, I also wrote about:
Getting into middle space. Discovering that I was a middle completely changed my life and the way I look at myself. It opened me up to my true self and helped me understand what I need out of a relationship. The only downside is that it’s hard to find a lot of information and advice from other middles. I decided to do my part for my fellow middles and put together a list of things that help me reach middle space.
How to apologize to your partner. Apologizing seems incredibly simple and easy. But for some people (myself included), it just doesn’t come so easily. I’ll apologize readily and often, but I don’t always do it well. I’m getting better at it for the sake of my relationship, and that starts with knowing what a proper apology actually looks like.
And this week on the Pillow Talk podcast, Jake and I talked about Cruel Intentions. It’s not just one of my favorite movies, it’s also responsible for some of my sexual awakenings and is basically a blueprint for my entire sexuality.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma ❤
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Are You Ready for Sexmas?
The Christmas season is cozy and intimate, which makes it the perfect time for getting naughty. Even the nights are longer - it’s like the universe is telling you to fuck.
That’s why Mr. Austin and I started celebrating Sexmas last year. And we had so much fun giving each other sex toys (and playing with them each night) that I decided to give some personal recommendations to help people have their own Sexmas celebration!
My Latest Medium Posts
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Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
What's the movie that made you?
For me, it was Cruel Intentions. In a lot of ways, it's a blueprint for my entire sexuality.
This week, Jake and I talk about the movie, why it meant so much to me (and still does!), and wonder whether this explains our collective fascination with fauxcest.
We also discuss my sex toy review marathon sessions, share some lukewarm takes on Fifty Shades of Grey, and Ryan Phillippe's apparently forgettable ass. Also, Jake somehow misremembers the plot of a movie he just watched.
Check out the show notes for relevant links. And if you love the show, consider rating and reviewing it on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Podchaser, or anywhere else!
New Exclusive Posts
Today, my Friends With Benefits are getting access to a bonus episode of Pillow Talk where Jake and I talk about one of the hottest sex games we’ve ever played. It was really simple, but it was enough to make me as horny as I’ve ever been.
I also wrote a short update on the episode that we wanted to record but couldn’t. It was supposed to be about Cruel Intentions 2 and 3. And well, those movies just plain suck.
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