Bring on the butt stuff 🍑
Hi!
Anal sex is finicky as hell.
If everything goes right, it can be amazing, pleasurable, and intense in a really good way.
Do it wrong, though, and there’s no way to enjoy it. It’s either too uncomfortable or actually painful.
The worst part is the initial penetration.
Once you’ve got a cock in your ass, all you need to do is make sure things stay lubricated and the fucking doesn’t get more aggressive than you can handle and you’re good.
Getting started is the tricky thing.
You’ve got to use lots of good quality lube, of course.
You have to take your time and go slowly.
But the most important thing you can do is learn to relax. Not just relax in general, but relax your ass specifically.
Most of the time, when anal sex isn’t pleasurable, it’s because the sphincter muscle decides to tighten when you don’t want it to.
That’s a tough thing to manage because tightening up is exactly what that muscle wants to do.
But there’s one trick that works incredibly well but almost no one talks about.
This week, I decided to share it, along with my advice for how to keep your sexiness alive as a mom, and what your partner really means when they say they wish your relationship was more spontaneous (don’t worry, it’s not as scary as it sounds).
I also reviewed a very fun and unique sex toy, the Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo. The Pulse is designed to pleasure cocks but this model worked really well as a couples toy, too.
Enjoy!
Love,
Emma ❤
Treat Yourself
If you want to get yourself a little something fun, here are some companies I love supporting.
If you’d like to try the Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo (or other Hot Octopuss toys) for yourself, you can get it from Betty’s Toy Box. Use the code LOVEEMMA at checkout to save 10% on your entire order.
If you’re in Canada, you can also get it from Naughty North - that’s where I got mine. LOVEEMMA gets you 10% of your entire order from them, too.
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My Latest Medium Posts
These are the articles I published this week on Medium. They're all Friend Links so you can read them for free, even without a Medium Membership.
From Love, Emma
Sex is an incredible way to build intimacy - but it’s not the only one. Even though I had a sexless marriage, it was still a great one because we found ways to stay connected.
This article from my blog Love, Emma is all about keeping a marriage strong and healthy even when sex is out of the equation.
Pillow Talk with Emma Austin
We recorded three new episodes - but thanks to a careless mistake on our part, we lost one of them.
So, we’ll be another week before getting one out - but we’ve got some good ones coming!
In the meantime, why not check out out most popular episode? It’s all about aural sex - from dirty talk to audio porn.
Something Spicy
Are these stories entirely factual? No, not entirely. But they’re still mine and I cherish them for that.
All of my erotica has a special place in my heart. But this is the collection of stories that helped me regain some sexual agency, process my past, and embrace my kinks.
So what if they’re only true-ish.
Erotic Confessions of a Canadian Girl: Seven True Stories
Before I wrote erotica, I lived it.And I’m finally ready to share those explorations, experiments, and adventures.
When you live in a small city on the East Coast of Canada, you need to find ways to pass the time. For me, that meant lots of naughty, dirty, lip-biting fun.
Giving my virginity, my first time with a woman, being naughty in public with a large audience, getting frisky with two strangers on a train – I share it all in explicit detail.
These true stories still turn me on, and I know they’ll get you excited, too.
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